My mother has always told me: "when people show you who they really are, believe them."
I've always thought that was pretty obvious and didn't need any kind of iteration, you know? As a woman who holds a few grudges and can be (at times) fairly vindictive, I've never had trouble translating douche-y behavior into a sure knowledge that that person is a douche. (I'm sure this surprises no one.)
Now I'm starting to realize it's not about that because when it's easy to write someone off as douche it means that, on some level, you've always kind of known they're a douche. It's about when you get blindsided and immediately start to rationalize it away, change it, dissect it into something you can actually swallow. You try to make it smaller, neater or nicer than it ever actually was. What she was trying to tell me was not to. To avoid falling into the same ditches and to keep learning, keep protecting yourself, keep listening to those around you and to do yourself a favor in the process.
SO: as much as this may suck, I'm going to start believing. Because if I don't, I'll be at the mercy of my own feelings and someone else's indifference.
And for a vindictive bitch like me, that just aint an option. :)
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